We help you sort out your finances after a relationship breakdown.

We’ll let you into a legal secret – the process of divorce is not the hard bit in separation. The real reasons to worry are your finances and your children.

The process of sorting out the money depends on whether you’re married or in a civil partnership, or living together. Either way, we can let you know exactly where you stand without any obligation.

Your first meeting with us costs £180.

And that price is fixed no matter how long it takes for you to tell us your situation. We’ll tell you where you stand legally, what might happen next, and how much it will all cost.

First, you need to know where you stand. Below, we explain the basics of finances and divorce, how to get started, and what your next steps should be.

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If you’re married or in a civil partnership.

You have the protection of a legal framework that gives some kind of structure to the way the money is divided. By using that framework to your advantage:

  • We will make sure your financial needs are addressed
  • We will push to achieve full disclosure of the matrimonial assets
  • We can look at whether you keep the house at least until the children are grown up
  • We can make sure any maintenance is fair to you
  • We can help you negotiate a clean break
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What you need to know If you’re married or in a civil partnership.

Getting to a fair agreement can be broken down into 3 parts…

1. What’s in the pot? (Financial Disclosure)

This is called “disclosure” by family lawyers.

It means the process of listing all the assets. For example: your house, all the bank accounts, the value of a business, the pensions, don’t forget digital wallets like Monzo, PayPal and app based share trading platforms!

You have a duty of “full and frank” disclosure and so does your ex. But sometimes a skilled lawyer or mediator is needed to help them understand why everything has to be disclosed.

Paperwork is very important at this stage. Are you going to use the court form, called Form E to list the assets? Are you going to do it informally? Are you going to use a mediator? Can you use our Single Solicitor Service?

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2. Negotiating a settlement.

If you were both business people then negotiating would be easy right?

It would just be about the money and you wouldn’t feel guilt or anger or real worry about where you are going to live. But this is not a commercial negotiation. The rest of your life and living standards may depend on how well you negotiate.

There are lots of options for negotiation. You can use: mediation, Single Solicitor Service, arbitration, collaborative law or solicitor negotiation or, of course, court. None of these ways are wrong, but some are more expensive, some are more suitable and some are faster than others. You need to pick the right way for you.

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  • A Mediator – they help you negotiate face to face. Think of them as a neutral referee. They blow the whistle on any shouting , pressure tactics, or unfairness. Usually you are negotiating face to face with the mediator present. They cannot give you legal advice.

  • Resolution Together Single Solicitor Service – this is where you share a solicitor who acts for both of you. They can give legal advice, it can be a very effective way of getting  the answer to “is this the best deal I can get and is it right for me?”

  • An Arbitrator – this is a different way of resolving disputes. You agree a contract that you will abide by whatever the arbitrator decides is fair in your case. Usually the arbitrator is a very senior lawyer, like a QC or even a retired Judge. They will not give you legal advice and you will need lawyers at your side throughout.

  • Collaborative law – your lawyer and you meet with the other party and their lawyer. You only ever have 4-way meetings, face to face. There is usually no correspondence exchanged as it is all done in the meetings.

  • Solicitor negotiation – Your own solicitor helps you get disclosure and then advises you what offer to put forward. The bulk of the work is done through letters to the other party or their lawyers.

  • Court – a very well known option – a timetable is set by the court. The first hearing usually resolve disputes about disclosure. The second hearing is where you try and reach agreement with the help of the Judge and if you do not settle, there will be a third hearing. At this final hearing the Judge hears evidence (usually by cross examination and statements) and make a decision for you.

    If you are not sure which is the right way for you, give us a call, we are happy to talk through your options.

3. Making a binding agreement. (Consent Order)

The third phase is usually the most straightforward.

Once the negotiation produces an agreement then it needs to be put into a document that binds both parties – then you can rely on it in the future. This is called a Consent Order. The deal is turned into a legally drafted document and your lawyer asks the court to approve the order, by signing and sealing it. Much of this can be done online and this speeds things up considerably

The Judge is no rubber-stamp though. Judges can and will send back draft Consent Orders that don’t make sense or which seem to be unfair to one party. This is why legal advice throughout the process will help you come to a deal that is fair to you and acceptable to the court.

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If you’re living together but not married.

It’s more tricky and that is where specialist advice really comes in useful. We can help you:

  • Establish the strength of your financial claim to any joint or mixed assets
  • Decide whether to resist pressure to sell the house when you are unmarried and want to keep the house until the children are grown up
  • Understand your maintenance options and obligations to you
  • If you are dealing with a “ToLATA” (Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996) claim we can help you in court
  • We can help with Schedule 1 claims under the Children Act 1989
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What you need to know if you’re living together but are not married.

Maybe you had a ‘living together’ agreement? Or maybe a deed of trust – this will tell what you agree will happen to money or the house. One thing you do not have is a ‘common law marriage’ – they don’t exist. So your rights are going to be centred in complex trust laws if anything you own is in joint names.

If, like many people, you did not have a deed or living together agreement, to protect yourself, you may need to negotiate a settlement or issue court proceedings to come to a deal.

Mediation, Single Solicitor Service, collaborative law and arbitration are all possible options for settling this kind of dispute. Finances on divorce can be complicated, so getting early advice is key. Do not set off down the wrong road and end up spending tens of thousands of pounds on advice that gets you nowhere.

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CC – Oxford

“I would personally like to thank you for your time, swift professional advice and your open and honest approach to my situation and would not hesitate to recommend your company.”

Natalie – Oxford

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Ms A – Divorce in Oxford

“I want to thank George Sayers for the support he provided during what turned out to be a particularly difficult and lengthy case. Throughout the process, George maintained excellent communication and offered clear, thoughtful guidance every step of the way. He worked tirelessly to make things as smooth as possible, even in challenging circumstances, and…

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Joe – Oxfordshire

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Y.S – London

“Just signed the documents. I thought I’d send you an email to thank you for your kind help as I feel like I have finally made some progress, and I wouldn’t be able to do this without you. Hopefully the court process goes smoothly. Much appreciated!”

G.D – Oxford

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L.K – London

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Natalie – Marcham

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Jamahl – Oxford

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Angela – Oxford

“This firm was recommended by a friend and this was the best recommendation I could have possibly obtained to help with my complex matter. Family First are deeply knowledgeable, efficient, prompt and profound. Their support in my children’s and financial cases cannot be praised enough. They quickly grasped the nuances of the matter, provided highly…

Kelly – Abingdon

“I was having a difficult time with a consent order for a divorce and Ursula at Family First offered me affordable advice which helped me to feel supported and comfortable. Ursula helped advise as much as she could and did the best for me. I really appreciate all her help and would highly recommend Family…

Lee – Oxford

“This is the second time I have had to use Family First, having successfully obtained a court order giving me access to my daughter. A few years in and the relationship had broken down further, contact was getting less and more difficult, and eventually it stopped all together. I went back to Family First and…

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E.G. – Oxford

“Family First guided me through the hardest time in my life and rescued me at short notice more than once! They are so helpful – I couldn’t have got through it all without their help. They understood where I was coming from and actually listened to me. If I ever need advice and help again…

E.B. – Oxford

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Rob – London

“While arranging a post-nuptial agreement, they were extremely patient as my partner went through two less-than-stellar solicitors. Keeping track over where we were over the many months it took was really helpful. Thank you!”

Michael – Oxfordshire

“Family First have provided brilliant legal support with my case. They have been accessible and informative throughout the process reducing the challenge of a difficult situation . I would highly recommend them to anyone in a position of need.”

Zhenya – Oxford

“I am forever grateful for all the help and support I have received from Ursula – she is very knowledgeable, very professional and very supportive. I don’t know how long my divorce would’ve dragged on if it wasn’t for Family First. Prices are very reasonable and services worth every penny. Initial meeting was £60 and…

J.M – London

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Sacha – Oxford

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W.G – London

“Thank you so much for all your work on this. I really appreciate your kindness, efficiency and clarity.”

Mrs A.B., Oxfordshire

“I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being with me and supporting me during the hardest part of life. You have supported me to make me mentally strong and given me great professional advice.”

A.Q. – London

“Ursula Rice at Family First is one amazing lady! Thanks to her, my divorce and settlement was sorted within a year, having previously had three other solicitors rip me off over nine years. I cant thank her enough – she is so down-to-earth and offered me the best advice possible. The solicitors I previously used…

Christopher – Reading

“Amazing service and friendly people, helping me all the way through the process of helping me to see my son.”

Sally – London

“I was really apprehensive about what the service would be like. George Sayer was very helpful and gave me all the answers I needed to feel comfortable in what my next steps needed to be. I would highly recommend anyone get in touch for a fast, cost effective and reliable service.”

Jenny – Oxford

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Candida – Oxfordshire

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J.P. – London

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Rachel – London

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R.W. – Kidlington, Oxfordshire

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Joanne – Kidlington

“I had some amazing advice given at their 60 minute free session a few months ago. It really changed things and has made things so much better since and more importantly I feel safe and knowing I have the law on my side has really helped. Thanks again for your amazing work.”

Tracy – Reading

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C.S. – London

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Tania – London

“The team provided professional, supportive service at an affordable price when I was going through an emotionally difficult divorce settlement. I felt in safe hands, which helped reduce my level of anxiety while facing the most challenging situation of my life. Thank you!”

M.H. – Oxford

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B.D. – London

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Christina – Oxford

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Shahriar – London

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Jade – Oxfordshire

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Hannah – Oxford

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Yeta – London

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K.E. – London

“I want to say a massive thank you for making this so pain-free. I know it wasn’t the most complicated of divorce settlements, but it’s still a massive relief to have it all done and dusted so quickly and without any undue stress or unforeseen costs. Thank you so much.” K.E.

Claire – London

“I am so grateful to find such an understanding and efficient firm to take on my case . From start to finish I felt totally supported practically and emotionally. It has been a difficult road for me and my family to get to the end result we needed . All of the team at Family…

Coffey – London

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Nikki – London

“First time using these solicitors, was very impressed with a quick appointment and great advice. I have been instructed well and felt I was listened to. Will definitely recommend and use again.”

S.F – Oxfordshire

“I want to thank you for all your hard work and support during my long painful divorce proceedings. It wasn’t an easy journey. But I’m grateful for everything. I’m so happy now to be free to get on with the rest of my life as are my children. I wish you all the best.”

Carmen – London

“Just wanted to say thank you for all your hard work and dedication throughout this case, myself and my partner are both very grateful.”

Stephen – Reading

“Brilliant service from the Family First team, they always dealt with any issues with my divorce in a very professional manner.”

Ms L, London

“Thank you for how fantastic and supportive you were with me on a personal level. You were the firm-but-fair reality check I needed at a very wobbly time. Without you I would never have got my act together and be in the (beautiful!) place I am now. My partner and I have found a way…

K.B. – Oxford

“I was having a difficult time with a consent order for a divorce and Ursula offered me affordable advice that made me feel supported and comfortable. I really appreciate all her help and would highly recommend Family First for affordable but professional advice.”

R.B. – Haringey, London

“I have really appreciated the team’s work on my case. They have been very responsive and are always compassionate, thoughtful and respectful and I have always felt like they genuinely care about the outcome and understand what it would mean for me and the girls. I know so many people who have had excessive charges…

H.K. – Oxford

“I had an excellent experience with Family First Solicitors, they were absolutely amazing throughout. They listened to all of my concerns and answered all of my questions. I could not have gone through the family court process without their help, guidance and support. Thank you for a result which I didn’t think I could ever…

M.N – London

“Probably the best service I’ve ever experienced. Amazing, highly recommended.”

Mr B, Oxford

“Great service and timely communications, written in a way that conveyed the points well, but didn’t cause alarm or stress. This is a refreshing change, having dealt with a much bigger law firm whose communications were stressful and badly written. Thank you for the speed with which you conducted my instructions. A great improvement compared…

Felicity – Oxford

“I had the pleasure of completing a week of work experience at Family First. I can say with confidence that the team are so welcoming, kind and hard-working in delivering a high quality service to their clients. Working alongside Carmen, George, Ursula and Maria, you can really tell that Family First are a team of…

S.A – Oxfordshire

“I had previously represented myself in court, which caused me a lot of stress and anxiety. Then I was recommended to Family First by a friend and they took on my case. They were upfront and honest with me, and able to explain things in a way that I could understand and answered all of…

Barbara – Abingdon

“An excellent firm to deal with. Professional, friendly, warm and caring at a stressful time of going through a divorce. Was put at ease immediately upon meeting them. Any queries whether by phone or email were answered quickly in plain English without jargon. Pay as you go meant no large bill at the end. Must…

Carla – Oxford

“Thank you very much for your help this morning and your understanding. We appreciate your advice. Thank you very much. I work as an interpreter and so I would definitely recommend you when families are looking for legal assistance.”

R.J – London

“George and Ursula do a Facebook live clinic once a week and are knowledgeable, relaxed and approachable. They strive to keep those who ask questions anonymous and give excellent off the cuff advice reassuring many of us with their information and knowledge. Invaluable to know there is somebody out there to answer those questions that…

Charlie – London

“Helpful and clear communicators, and very reasonable to deal with.”

Ian – Oxfordshire

“I cannot thank Ursula enough for her exemplary service and advice throughout! I had previously used two different Firms for my Divorce proceedings. First resulted in me getting a decree absolute without knowing it was coming and without having sorted Children’s Arrangements or Financial matters. The second resulted in me haemorrhaging money and getting absolutely…

G.L. – Oxford

“I would highly recommend Family First’s services. I’d met with two different solicitors regarding my matter and paid handsomely for the poor experience, before being recommended Family First. They were knowledgeable, clear, approachable and patient. Overall a far better service than anywhere else I’ve been – and cheaper.”

D.D – London

“The only family solicitor you need! From the start, George and his legal assistant Maria were outstanding. He gave me reassurance throughout. We laughed together, analysed together, he was not only by my side, but genuinely believed in mine and my children’s case. There isn’t another solicitor I’d ever consider, or use. George was Professional,…

Stuart – London

“I required help with my divorce proceedings and Family First were genuinely fantastic at helping with the whole process, advising on what was best for me and my family and the service couldn’t have been better. I have already recommended Family First Solicitors to several people in similar circumstances by word of mouth and wanted…

Sofia – Abingdon

“I am so grateful to this team, and especially to Ursula, that I don’t even know where to begin. Ursula is so knowledgeable and grounded. I absolutely admire the bones out of her. When she took on my case, I had been financially and emotionally drained by a previous solicitor, who seemed more concerned on…

T.S. – Oxfordshire

“Today I came away from court with more than what I ever imagined possible. From the first day I enquired until this afternoon, they couldn’t have been any better. So sincere and genuine in their advice and approach. I really can’t recommend or thank them enough.”

Sarah – Whitney

“Amazing! Ursula helped me so much, through the court process and helped me grasp everything. Any fears I had going into court were washed away and even when I panicked Ursula handled everything extremely well. Always kept me in the loop and explained clearly. In the end we got the result we wanted and couldn’t…

V.P. – London

“Discovering Family First has been a revelation. I have been in litigation for over 8 years, and had received poor service from two other solicitors. I’ve been a PAYG client with Family First for the last 6 years and it has served me extremely well – enabling my complex and protracted divorce litigation to be…

Ali – Oxford

“Highly recommended. Ursula was fantastic and took her time to discuss my case with great patience and professionalism. I feel I had the most honest advice in what is a stressful time for most people, and she had my best interest in mind rather than the potential fees. Would definitely recommend this firm!”

Samuel Jeffreys – London

“I am writing this review to express my gratitude to George for his amazing service during a very challenging time for myself and my family. He was supportive, reassuring and helpful throughout. He was very thorough and did an outstanding job before and during the court hearing. We couldn’t have asked for a better solicitor.…

Rupert – Oxford

“I visited Henrietta Pote, Legal Executive at Family First Solicitors, Oxford, following the breakdown of my marriage. I had little idea of how difficult and protracted the process would become and how much I would come to rely and value her excellent professional advice. Despite being a very short marriage (16 months) and there being…

Deji – Oxfordshire

“Great advice especially for someone who is self representing.”

G.B – London

“Bruna has be absolutely amazing, helping me with everything. I felt like she cared throughout the whole process, I would definitely recommend Bruna. And if needed in the future will be using Bruna always!”

Rita – London

“I have no words to express my gratitude to George, thank you so much for being on my side. I will never forget what you done for me and for my family.”

Santa – London

“I went through terrible time in my life but the Family First solicitors were so friendly and understanding, they were the best I could possibly have after I had spoken to so many solicitors who were just after a money and didn’t care about their clients. I can’t thank you guys enough, I will be…

Andrew – Whitney

“Just like to say Ursula Rice at family first is one amazing lady! Thanks to her my divorce and settlement with her help was sorted within a year after having 3 other solicitors rip me off for 9 years previous. I cant thank her enough she is so down to earth and offered me the…

R.T – Oxford

“Grass roots advice. No nonsense definition of the law with realistic expectations.”

V.S. London

“Ursula gave sound, easy to understand & down to earth advice. 100% supportive, & suggested appropriate way to pay i.e. Pay-as-you-go, as minimal support needed”

L.C – London

“My solicitor did an amazing job with helping me with my court case that I and and ex partner were going through. They were always there to contact via email or phone and really helped me feel confident. They also recommended an amazing counsel during our second court case who again was great and helped…

G.H. – London

“They represented me in family court at a very stressful time. They proved to be very knowledgable and professional in getting matters concluded. I would highly recommend Family Fist Solicitors.”

Ella – Reading

“The team were completely amazing and professional. It made an awful time a lot less stressful and they couldn’t have been more supportive.”

Vanessa – London

“I have been in litigation for over 8 years. Previously I had not received good service with 2 other solicitors and found myself in a wholly unsatisfactory position. Discovering Family First has been a revelation. I’ve been a PAYG client for the last 6 years. It has served me extremely well and enabled my complex…

Anna – Oxfordshire

“I just wanted to say how grateful I am to Family First for their support and valued advice, during a very prolonged and difficult time. Their professionalism and knowledge kept me going when I was ready to give up, for which I will be forever thankful.”

Kuang-Ting – Oxfordshire

“Family First provided a really professional service with affordable price. Their suggestions are super helpful and valuable. Highly recommend!”

Penny – Oxford

“I have been using Family First’s “Pay as you Go” service right the way through, from thinking about issuing divorce proceedings, to going through to obtaining a financial agreement. From start to finish, the service has been excellent. I have had the right help, at the right time, and have felt completely supported. Henrietta has…

Penny – Whitney

“I have been using Family First’s Pay as you Go service right the way through, from thinking about issuing divorce proceedings, to going through to obtaining a financial agreement. From start to finish, the service has been excellent. I have had the right help, at the right time, and have felt completely supported. Henrietta has…

Alison – Oxfordshire

“Professional, yet empathetic approach to promoting a smooth divorce procedure. I have really appreciated Family First Solicitors’ support every step of the way.”

Sarah – Oxfordshire

“It’s been a total joy with work with Henrietta through a really tough time. She has been clear, supportive, gentle and been happy to listen at all times. I have appreciated the pay as you go option as it’s allowed me to be in control of expenses and to get the exact support I need…

Stuart – London

“I felt that the solicitor made a very thorough assessment of my tricky situation and went above and beyond what I expected to give me some good, carefully considered advice. On top of that he seemed like a really nice guy.”

Tara – London

“Great service. I have used the set fee appointment and also pay by the hour Both were great value for money and Ursula was extremely helpful I would highly recommend.”

J – Oxford

“A great big thank you for all your help to date. You have always been a pleasure to deal with and I’ve really appreciated your no-nonsense personable approach that has also championed my ability to do much of this myself and as a side effect has really helped raise my post-divorce confidence. I have and…

Michael – Oxfordshire

“I had a fantastic experience with Henrietta Pote and the rest of the team at Family First Solicitors and would highly recommend them to anybody looking for an honest, trustworthy and reliable legal service. Henrietta guided me through the most difficult time of my life, providing a phenomenal level of service and helping me build…

A.A. Oxford

“I can highly recommend Ursula Rice, who was such a friendly and understanding solicitor throughout my divorce proceedings. I always had a prompt response to queries and was kept up to date. I could not have chosen a better solicitor who understood the needs of myself and my children through a difficult time.”

S.C. – London

“I went through terrible time in my life but Family First were so friendly and understanding. They were the best I could possibly have imagined, after having spoken to so many solicitors who were just after my money and didn’t care about me. I can’t thank you guys enough. I will be recommending Family First…

Bhawana – Oxford

“Ursula was amazing from start to finish. She was very humane and professional. Gave me excellent clarity and advise. Unlike other law firms she did not advise unnecessary things which would add legal costs, in-fact she simplified issues and made the whole process concise and relevant, keeping costs down where possible. Ursula came to my…

L.K. – Oxford

“Very practical, helpful and understanding – I felt a huge sense of relief after speaking to them – £120 well spent.”

Client Stories: Family Lawyers & Divorce Lawyers Oxford and London

Family Law Articles and Advice

Can AI Be Your Family Lawyer? Family First Solicitors Oxford and London.

Can AI Be Your Family Lawyer?

AI is making inroads into almost every aspect of our lives. In this video Ursula Rice explores the ways in which Artificial Intelligence can help you with your family law…

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Without Notice Injunctions

Without notice (or as lawyers call them ” ex parte ” ) injunctions are a court application for an order without telling the other side you are going to get…

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What is security of tenure?

Security of tenure is a fancy way of saying “how easy can you be kicked out of where you live”. This blog explains the basics about security of tenure. Read…

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Deaf with a Capital D

Recently I advised a Deaf client. The enquiry came in by email, was firmed up using the text relay service, and the advice was given with the assistance of a…

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Pets and divorce

Pets in a divorce can be a very emotive subject, read on to find out the legal position and some good ideas to help you stay with your faithful friend…

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Moving away with the kids

One of the most difficult issues the family courts grapple with is called “internal relocation”. This covers cases where one parent is told by another parent the they are moving…

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The Costs of Costs

When we are acting for parents in a dispute about a child we are often asked whether our client can recover their costs from the other parent.

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The Absent Father

The DRAMA – that’s why family lawyers enjoy their job (sometimes). Nobody walks into our office/ facebook page and tells their story in measured unemotional terms.

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Should have got a Consent Order

The recent case of Wyatt v Vince goes like this: counter cultural gentleman uses festival raver knowledge to crack the bad-ass world of commercial electricity generation.

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Paying Legal Fees

Paying legal fees is the single biggest worry for people who are thinking about getting advice. So how can you get the advice that you think you need?

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My wishes and feelings…

If you have a court case about a child going on, you probably already know that “wishes and feelings” are part of the checklist of things a judge has to…

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Pensions and Divorce. Family First Solicitors Oxford and London.

Pensions and Divorce

Pensions and Divorce are not as simple as you might expect. Ursula Rice explains what you need to do before you start court proceedings.

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Finances, Divorce and Family Law: Frequently Asked Questions

If you are considering separation or divorce, you will have questions about the rules, costs and common misconceptions surrounding family law, finances and divorce.

In this section, we cover the most frequently asked questions we receive about family law, separation and divorce, and we continually add new topics as they arise.

If your query is not covered, simply call us on 03334 440 003 of fill in the enquiry form below and we’ll do our best to help you.

"Pound sterling symbol on a money bag, with wooden human counters either side of it" How much does divorce cost in 2023. Family First Solicitors

How much does a Divorce cost in the UK in 2025?

The cost of the divorce itself should be relatively inexpensive. You can keep the divorce cost down in two different ways:

1. Doing much of the administrative work on your divorce yourself.
This method of managing the cost of a divorce only costs you your time and the current court fee of £612, which you can pay to the court via their online system.

2. Instructing a Solicitor for help with your Divorce.
This could be because you don’t have the time to do the admin, because you are feeling overwhelmed or you don’t the mental bandwidth for it right now. Family First Solicitors offer fixed fee divorce at £900 +VAT. The court fee of £612 is still payable in full.

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When do I not want a pre-nup?

When do I not want a pre-nup?

Why wouldn’t you want to sort out the sticky ending, when in a positive and optimistic and productive frame of mind, rather than the dark underbelly of being in a divorce?

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Why do I need a Pre-nup?

Why do I need a Pre-nup? New house, new life together, we don’t want to bring you down but preparing now can help if things don’t go to plan.

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How are finances usually divided in a divorce?

In England and Wales, the division of finances during a divorce is based on the principles of fairness and meeting the needs of both parties. The legislation that governs financial settlements in divorce cases in the UK is the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973. Section 25.

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Will I have to go to court?

Generally not! It very much depends on one overriding factor in our experience – personality. That’s because there is ALWAYS a way to fix things, even in the most complicated scenarios, if people are reasonable and can listen to the other person’s point of view.

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What happens to maintenance if one of us remarries?

If the person receiving the maintenance remarries, then maintenance payments are immediately terminated under the law. If the paying person remarries then there is no effect on the maintenance by law. However, the payer may ask the court to drop their payment down.

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Who pays the legal fees in the divorce?

The costs of a divorce only are generally borne by the party making the divorce application. You can ask the court to make your ex-spouse pay the costs later down the line, but you need to remember to apply for it on the online divorce platform.

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My partner is violent, what can I do?

Contact helplines and support organisations: In the UK, you can contact organisations such as the National Domestic Violence Helpline at 0808 2000 247 or Women’s Aid for support, advice, and guidance

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How much maintenance am I entitled to?

“Entitled to” is the wrong way of looking at it really. It makes more sense to say “ how much to I need” as a starting point, for most people. For the very rich few, there may be a concept of “entitlement” but even then it is not a given.

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What financial information will I need to give for Divorce?

When you are dealing with financial matters in divorce, there will come a point where you are told to disclose your assets and your income. Even if you have decided that you don’t need to do full deep dive bank statement disclosure, there will still be some financial disclosure.

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What If My Spouse Refuses To Accept The Divorce?

Since April 2022, it is far less likely that your spouse will refuse to accept the divorce. The fact that there is no ‘blame’ in the new divorce process means that it is likely that both parties know that the marriage is over and will both want to get to legal closure and officially separate.

However, the legal process can sometimes be abused by a spouse not engaging in the process…

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What If I’m Stuck In The Old Divorce Process?

If your divorce began before 06th April 2022, then you will be in the old system of ‘fault-based’ divorce.

The old fault-based UK divorce system dated from 1973 and was complicated by the requirement for the Petitioner to rely on a ‘fact’ to supports the grounds for divorce. In addition to the ‘ground’ for divorce being ‘irretrievable breakdown’, one of these five ‘facts’ had to be proven:

1. Adultery
2. Desertion
3. Unreasonable Behaviour
4. Separation for 2 years with consent (this was often the least contentious and ‘nicest’ fact)
5. Separation for 5 years due to one party refusing to consent to the divorce

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What are Grounds for Divorce?

In the bad old days, you needed to give a ‘fact’ as grounds for divorce: adultery, desertion, unreasonable behaviour, separation for two years with consent (both of you agree to Divorce) or, as a last resort, separation for five years if one party is refusing the divorce.

As you can imagine, this generated a lot of work for family lawyers and a great deal of unhappiness and ‘finger pointing’ between spouses. It added a layer of complexity, and lots of money was spent on the technicalities – going back and forth trying to negotiate your way out of them.

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Can I Stop My Spouse Dissipating Our Assets?

In some divorces, there’s a real danger that assets of significant value will be lost, spent or somehow dissipated before the divorce is finalised.

If there is evidence that a spouse is about to make a disposition with the intention to of defeating the Applicant’s claim for financial relief, then you can make an application for an Injunction to stop them. If you can show that the intended disposition would completely ruin your chances of a just financial outcome, then the court will presume that that is the intention. The court will make such an order as it thinks fit to restrain the Respondent from disposing of the assets, or whatever it takes to protect your claim.

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What is Mediation?

Family Mediation helps people who have been in some kind of relationship, end it with dignity and fairness to all.

The Mediator is a trained professional who is neutral. The Mediator does not take a side, but they will try and help with issues that affect the both of you, ensuring that both of you see things for each other’s perspectives.

The Mediator will meet with both parties individually at first…

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Should I apply for a Divorce solely or jointly?

As a general rule, if you can, you should try to make a joint application. That way, there are no surprises and it is the outcome that you both know you need. If you think your spouse is likely to be uncooperative – even after some advice and catching up emotionally – you may be better off making a sole application. There is no longer an option to contest a divorce. However, there may be issues with the service of the divorce papers. If that becomes a problem, we can help.

If you are in a domestically abusive relationship…

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"A question mark on a calendar". How long does divorce take in 2023. Family first solicitors

How long does a Divorce take in 2025?

If you are filing online (i.e. after April 2022), the process will take around 6-8 months.
This is because we find that most people have busy lives and need about a month to gather all of their paperwork, undertake conversations that need to be had, and get up and running before they press ‘go’.

There is then a little bit of delay built into the process

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How can I keep my divorce costs down?

Like any normal person, one of your biggest fears is spending all of your money on lawyers. You are quite right to be afraid, minimising your lawyer spend should be a priority both for you and your spouse.

So if you’re asking “How can I keep my divorce costs down?”, here are four options…

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Can I stop my house being sold?

Sometimes, when things get heated; one spouse says to the other: “I’m going to make you sell the house”. You will naturally be wondering “Can I stop my house being sold?” Well, at least, on a temporary basis that the answer is generally yes, you can stop the house being sold.

Lets look at the various scenarios:

1. You are a joint owner of the house. It’s really simple…

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